Today is a big day; my mom is going out to brunch. It’s been almost a month since my step-dad died and she hasn’t felt ready to do anything social with her friends.. until now.
I’m sure she will have last minute quivers, she had them last week-end when we invited her out to eat and she backed out after initially saying yes. She didn’t use the bra excuse, but it was close.
Let’s face it, staying home is safe, comfortable, predictable and undemanding ..but I think mom is also finding that home can pretty quickly become a beautifully appointed, suffocating place if you don’t get out of it enough. Home can be a hiding place, a refuge from tough realities.. but that soft, cozy blanket can eventually wrap us up so tightly that it cuts us off from the life circulating on the other side of our front doors.
Part of what makes home special is coming back to it..from work, from vacation, from brunch.
I told mom last week not to wait too long to re-engage with her friends, but I also reassured her that she would know when the time was right.
I hope that right time is today.
💗good for her
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My sincere condolences on the loss of your step father. I hope your Mom was blessed with renewed energy from spending time with her friends. Grief is such a heavy burden, and although we cannot take it away, hopefully we can lighten it somewhat. Wishing you and your Mom the blessings of comfort and peace.
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Thanks Carol. She did go to brunch and afterwards we took her to doggie-playtime at the park which she loved. There’s something about puppies that just cuts through everything and restores your sense of well-being.. if just for a little while.
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Animals are wonderful, aren’t they? Glad she was able to forget her troubles for a little while. Blessings, always
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