One of the great things about going to the beach is reading. I stuff a stack of magazines into a big bag, drag them to my towel draped ‘chaise’ and immerse myself in a sea of creative recipes, the latest fashion trends and of course, self-help tips.

Two magazines I actually do enjoy reading are OPRAH and REAL SIMPLE. This past edition of Oprah had a terrific article about how well-meaning people can keep each other down.

The author started out with a fascinating illustration. I guess if there are a bunch of crabs in a bucket and one crab tries to climb out, the other crabs instinctively grab onto it and  pull it back down. (I did not know that, did you?)

Anyway, this example was used to illustrate how our family, friends and co-wrokers can sabotage our plans and goals because they are threatened by a change in the status-quo.

Ever been the one girl in the office on a diet?

Ever been the one guy who is looking for a better job opportunity?

Ever been the one family member thinking about relocating to a different state?

Watch out for the “crabs” who may try to keep you ‘in your place’..not because they don’t like or love you, but because they simply want things to stay the same–

not just in your life,

but more importantly in theirs.

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