My husband is in a rush.
I’m in the kitchen, boiling water for his “tea-to-go” and checking my e-mail.
The estimate to install the tile just popped up in my in-box and it’s high..
My husband flies down the stairs, splashes some cream into his steaming travel mug and charges for the door.
I give him a kiss and tell him to have a great day..
No one would ever guess, but I just completed my first work-out of the morning.
It has taken me 50 years to understand and appreciate the importance of timing. I have no idea why this has been so difficult, but just as with any challenging exercise done regularly, it’s definitely paying off.
Saving comments, suggestions, criticism and just plain old information (like the tile quote) for moments when they will be better received is akin to holding a yoga pose- it can be tough! What’s been interesting too is discovering that sometimes that “better moment” never arrives and the urgency (or reason) to share eventually expires as well.
And before you think that learning the art of “fine-timing” is simply all about me trying to improve my chances of getting what I want, well let me assure you, that’s only half the story..okay, so maybe 3/4…
The truth is that I am also learning to critically evaluate not only the importance of what comes out of my mouth, when it comes out of my mouth, but the potential effects of what comes out of my mouth on others.
Will this help?
Will this cause anxiety, anger, frustration?
Does this person need to hear this right now?
Will this be a drag on their day or lift them up?
Does this matter …at all?
Am I simply venting or gossiping?
Do I have the full story?
Another fellow is coming today to give me one more estimate on the cost of laying our tile. His numbers will help me develop a better picture of how much a job like this should actually cost. If his figure is high as well, my husband will probably want to rent that scary, messy, loud machine and do the tile himself.
This is a conversation we can have this week-end over a beer.
Until then, I’m going to watch you-tube tile tutorials and wait for the second quote to come in…
And oh yeah, hold my tongue.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.-Ephesians 4:29